Monday, December 22, 2008

我的妈妈

我的妈妈是个村妇,生于吉隆坡一个小地方。由于家里兄弟姐妹众多,并没有受到很好的照顾,也没有接受什么教育,只读到了小学二年级,然后帮家人养猪卖菜。她相当迟婚,所以和子女们的年纪相差蛮大。可能是代沟的关系,我并不喜欢和她谈心事,而且也从来没有这个习惯。说真的,我对她小时候的生活还真不了解。

我曾经羡慕其他人有一个年轻又时髦的妈妈,我的妈妈既老土又没有才艺。她不像其他母亲一样懂得到处去增广见闻,有时候我带她出街还会担心她出丑,令我丢脸。以前我们家境贫穷,就住在木屋区,家里也没有水电供应,爸爸出去工作的时候她就需要自己打井水和点煤油灯来做家务。到我们长大一些,她就到附近工厂做粗工,帮补家用。

妈妈她快要接近七十岁了,身体已经越来越差,手指弯曲的很厉害,而且走路的时候时常不自觉地驼起背来。因为白内障的关系,她的左眼现在已经失明了。如果要我回忆起妈妈一件最令我印象深刻的事,我肯定不会忘记这件发生在大概十年前的事。记得那个早上,我还在家里等着她去巴刹买早餐给我们,却只见到她用手托着鼻子,满脸鲜血跑回来。原来她踏脚车的时候翻覆,整个人摔进沟渠,结果鼻子也脱了出来,要进医院缝针。那一次真的吓了我一大跳。

以我的崇高的标准来看,妈妈是个没有智慧的人。她时常都会为了一些小事而烦恼。虽然她的身体不适,她依然每天早上起身为我们洗衣服,准备早餐,打点一切,一直到晚上才可以休息。有时候我们劝她少点操劳,她甚至会发脾气。妈妈她就是这样,时时刻刻都会为子女操心,希望可以看到我们兄弟姐妹们无论在她还在或走了之后都会过得很好。

吴若权说,天下的妈妈都不一样,唯一相同的是她们对子女的关爱。我的妈妈虽然不比的上其他妈妈那样懂得生活,可是她对我们的爱,是丝毫不比任何一个妈妈少。愿她每天可以快乐一点。

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

读了这篇文章,真的有所感触,共鸣和感动。我们常常把自己最好的一面呈现给别人看,所以常常会觉得为什么别人的任何东西都比我好,家庭背景比我好,父母比我好。。。
父母能为孩子付出很多相反的作为孩子的我们又能为父母付出多少呢?
我们往往对家人非常苛刻,不懂得欣赏自己所拥有的。所以真的要多多欣赏自己,珍惜自己那你才会去爱别人,珍惜别人。我也花了一段时间才领悟到,所以要感谢自己。我爸爸是个严父,从小就很怕他感觉不到他的爱所以就认为自己也不爱他。直到失去他我才明白“血浓于水”的道理。真的很想再叫声“爸”他可以回应我。珍惜所拥有的和眼前人。

Unknown said...

Very thoughtful article. I have been living away for the past many years. Even so, I have never stop thinking of my parents one day. I tried to call them often if not each day. Each year I can see them aging. I have most fear that I will lose them one day, and the thoughts of that is excruciatingly haunting. I used to think that being away makes u realise what you have missed, and because of that it helps you appreciate the love that may otherwise be overshadowed by the daily noise. Whenever I go back, I see quarrels, disputes, complaints etc among my family members, initially I am very against them, but later I know it's all part of being in a real family, able to reveal your true human sides of emotion, so long it doesn't overrun. All the moments together, whatever good or bad, is a show of love if put into perspective. True appreciation of love will always awaken some day, there's never too late, as the family bond has tied us since the very beginning. For myself, I hope that they can live through the growing of their grandkids. I shall call them now to wish them a good xmas!

siaolee said...

谢谢每一个看过我的部落格的人,不管你们认不认识我。这是一个我和其他人很好的沟通桥梁,特别是在这里,我看到了许多朋友的留言。其中更有一个我时常觉得他吊儿郎当的朋友,想不到他也会流露出感性的一面,哈哈。:P

Doris Tie +6012-2859569 said...

It make me think of my own old folk. I grow up with noise and quarrel in family. Even now my folk still argue and quarrel over thing. When I was in Uni away from home, I just can't understand why my roommate like to go back home town so much. It is not to say that I didn't go back home at all.
Now I have been away for a long time most of the time, and after all those years past, I suddenly miss all the noise. Now I go back home more often than I used to and also called back home more often too ! ... My folk cannot stand to stay in KL for long time. For them, there is no friends around and nothing to work on. They never let us know if they are sick in somewhere or broke a leg or a finger. I will only know it when I called back or went home to visit them. By then, they have recovered already ...

Unknown said...

When I throw tantrum, most often, my parents are the receiving ends. In order to control my bad temper, I have decided to cut down, if possible, give up on meat.